• 419: Seth Godin - Using Strategy to Shape Your Life and Mental Health
    Oct 25 2024

    In today’s episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I’m thrilled to sit down with marketing guru and best-selling author Seth Godin. Seth shares his near-death experience off the coast of San Clemente—a moment that became a powerful reminder of his mission to teach and contribute. We explore his philosophy of “strategy as a philosophy of becoming” and discuss practical ways to craft personal life strategies that align with our values, whether in creativity, mental resilience, or personal growth.

    In our conversation, Seth and I cover a range of ideas, from recognizing societal systems that impact our lives to overcoming societal pressures and finding meaning in service to others. Seth’s “lifeguard analogy” emphasizes the importance of focusing on helping others, and his insights are full of actionable takeaways for anyone looking to lead a more purpose-driven life.

    Tune in for an episode packed with practical strategies and reflections that can help you shape a life you’re proud of.

    Topics Covered:

    • Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence
    • The Lifeguard Analogy: Why Starting with Generosity Can Change Your Life
    • Recognizing the Systems That Influence Our Daily Lives
    • How Strategy and Mental Health Intersect in Our Modern World
    • Building Powerful Daily Creative Habits
    • Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose
    • Developing Authentic Networks and Finding Your Community

    Timestamps:

    00:15 — Introduction: Meet Seth Godin
    02:05 — Breaking Down Writer’s Block and Building Creative Confidence
    06:00 — Learning Through the Lifeguard Analogy: How to Start Contributing Now
    12:15 — Recognizing the Systems Shaping Our Lives
    18:30 — Personal Strategy and Mental Health: How They Intersect
    24:00 — The Power of Daily Creative Habits
    30:40 — Real-Life Applications: Who's It For, What's It For?
    36:25 — Avoiding the Trap of Playing Games We’re Meant to Lose
    41:50 — How Strategy Can Help Us Cope with Modern Mental Health Challenges
    47:05 — Building Authentic Networks and Finding Community

    About the Podcast
    I’m Dr. Robert Duff, a clinical psychologist dedicated to breaking down complex mental health topics into relatable, actionable advice. On the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, we dive deep into mental health, personal development, and practical strategies to help you thrive. Each episode features expert interviews, useful tips, and answers to listener questions, all to support your journey toward a healthier, more fulfilling life.

    Guest Links:

    • Seth’s Latest Book: This is Strategy
    • Seth Godin’s Blog: Seth's Blog
    • Seth’s Podcast: Akimbo Podcast

    Connect With Me:

    • Website: duffthepsych.com
    • Instagram: @duffthepsych
    • YouTube: Dr. Duff’s Channel
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    45 mins
  • 418: Healing Childhood PTSD with Anna Runkle The Crappy Childhood Fairy
    Oct 18 2024
    In this episode, I sit down with Anna Runkle, better known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy, to explore her journey of healing from childhood PTSD and the unique methods she has developed to help others do the same. Anna has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide re-regulate their nervous systems and recover from deep emotional wounds using simple but powerful techniques. We dive deep into what childhood PTSD really is, how it differs from complex PTSD, and what doctors often get wrong about trauma. Anna also shares her personal story of growing up in a chaotic commune, the lasting effects of emotional neglect and abandonment, and the practical steps she used to reclaim her life and happiness. Whether you're personally affected by trauma or seeking to support someone who is, Anna’s wisdom, tools, and personal insights provide valuable takeaways for anyone on a healing journey. Links: Order Anna's book Re-Regulated here: https://bit.ly/44Eo1ma Get Instant Access to Anna's free online course, The Daily Practice here:http://bit.ly/Cf CF_DailyPractice YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/c/CrappyChildhoodFairy Website: https://crappychildhoodfairy.com CCF Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/crappychildhoodfairy/ Timestamps: 0:00 – Introduction Introduction to Anna Runkle, aka the Crappy Childhood Fairy, and her mission to help people heal from childhood PTSD.Overview of the topics to be covered: childhood trauma, PTSD, healing methods, and Anna’s personal story. 2:30 – Anna’s Early Life and Growing Up in a Commune Anna describes her chaotic upbringing in a Berkeley commune, surrounded by addiction, neglect, and violence.The impact of family addiction and how it shaped her view of the world. 7:15 – Understanding Childhood PTSD vs. Complex PTSD Anna explains the difference between childhood PTSD and complex PTSD, and why she uses a more accessible term for the general public.How childhood trauma can stay latent and resurface in adulthood after new traumatic events. 12:45 – Coping Mechanisms and the Breaking Point Anna shares how being the "good girl" helped her survive but eventually led to deep depression.Her experience of hitting rock bottom and the overwhelming effects of what she calls a "trauma storm." 16:30 – The Effects of Gaslighting and Emotional Neglect Anna discusses the emotional invalidation she faced growing up and the gaslighting that made her doubt her own reality.The lasting impact of growing up in an environment of denial. 21:00 – The Role of Attachment Wounds and Limerence How unresolved emotional neglect led to dysfunctional relationships in Anna’s life, especially through a phenomenon called "limerence"—an obsessive, addictive form of love.The cycle of seeking validation in unhealthy ways due to an insecure attachment style. 27:30 – Trauma Healing and Nervous System Regulation Anna explains the concept of nervous system dysregulation and how trauma impacts not only emotions but also physical health.Her personal health struggles with autoimmune diseases and chronic fatigue, and how regulating her nervous system led to profound healing. 33:00 – The Power of Simple Healing Techniques Anna shares the simple yet powerful technique of writing down fears and resentments daily, a method she learned from a friend in AA.How this practice gave her the emotional relief she had been seeking for years. 38:45 – Generational Trauma and Breaking the Cycle Anna reflects on the generational trauma in her family and the importance of breaking the cycle of emotional neglect and dysfunction.How her own healing journey has allowed her to parent with more stability and emotional availability. 43:00 – The Myth of ‘What Doesn’t Kill You Makes You Stronger’ Anna challenges the common belief that trauma automatically leads to growth, explaining that for many people, trauma can be devastating without proper support.The dangers of spiritual bypassing and toxic positivity. 48:15 – Finding True Healing and Becoming Your Full Self Anna talks about the ultimate goal of trauma healing: becoming your full, real self and creating space to hear your own inner guidance.The importance of personal freedom, acceptance, and helping others on their healing journey. 53:00 – Practical Takeaways and Final Thoughts Anna offers actionable advice for anyone struggling with childhood trauma, focusing on simple daily practices that help re-regulate the nervous system and foster healing.How to connect with Anna and learn more about her work with the Crappy Childhood Fairy. Key Takeaways: Childhood PTSD often goes unrecognized or is misunderstood, even within the medical community.Emotional neglect and trauma can deeply impact adult relationships, leading to patterns of insecurity and attachment wounds.Healing from trauma involves re-regulating the nervous system, a process that can lead to profound physical, emotional, and mental recovery.Simple daily practices, ...
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    1 hr and 9 mins
  • 417: Podcast Updates and Random Show!
    Oct 11 2024

    In this laid-back check-in episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I take you through a series of updates and random musings. I discuss the current state of the podcast, why I decided to fire my ad agency, and the recent revival of interviews. I also share some personal projects, from working on my bipolar disorder book to collaborating with my kids on a creative game inspired by Minecraft. Throughout, I reflect on AI innovations, the challenges of balancing podcasting with life, and ways I've been keeping active, like my new rucking routine. This episode is perfect for catching up on everything happening in my world, from professional changes to hobbies and everything in between.

    Links:

    • Email me with your questions or feedback.
    • Visit my website for more contact options.
    • Check out the Insight Neuropsychology blog for more brain-focused content.
    • NotebookLM
    • Pokémon Insurgence

    Chapters:

    00:00 Introduction

    01:00 Podcast Updates

    02:00 Fired Ad Agency

    05:00 Interview Segment Revival

    08:00 Changes in Podcast Style

    09:00 Decline in Podcast Numbers and Stepping Away from Ads

    11:00 Writing Update - Bipolar Book

    13:00 AI Adventures - ChatGPT Voice Mode Demo

    18:00 AI Applications - Notebook LM

    21:00 Personal Favorites - POV Cooking Channels

    22:00 Nostalgia Gaming - Pokémon Insurgence

    23:00 Podcast Recommendation - Tim Ferriss Interview with Elizabeth Gilbert

    24:00 Work and Mentorship Updates

    26:00 Fitness Journey - Rucking

    27:00 Creative Projects with Kids

    28:00 Reflections on Current Events and Mental Health

    29:00 Wrap-up

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    29 mins
  • 416: David Burns MD - "Feeling Good" Legend on Life, Legacy, and His New AI App
    Sep 27 2024

    In today’s episode, I had the absolute honor of sitting down with Dr. David Burns, a true legend in the field of mental health. Dr. Burns is not only a pioneer of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), but he’s also the best-selling author of Feeling Good and Feeling Great, which have collectively sold millions of copies worldwide. Spending so much time with him was a real treat, as he shared his incredible insights into mental health, his innovative T.E.A.M. Therapy method, and his groundbreaking Feeling Great App.

    We talked about how his methods are helping people achieve rapid and lasting recovery from depression, anxiety, and other difficult emotions, sometimes in just one session. Dr. Burns also gave us a behind-the-scenes look at how his AI-driven app is transforming mental health treatment, making it accessible and effective for people everywhere.

    This conversation was truly fascinating, and I’m sure you’ll find a ton of value in it. Whether you’re familiar with Dr. Burns’ work or hearing about him for the first time, you’ll come away with practical advice and a deeper understanding of how to break free from the emotional patterns holding you back.

    In this episode, we cover:

    • Dr. Burns' early work with CBT and how it evolved into T.E.A.M. Therapy.
    • The creation and impact of the Feeling Great App, and how it leverages AI to deliver therapy.
    • Why measuring progress in therapy is essential and how data-driven methods are changing the field.
    • The common cause behind many negative emotions, and how to tackle it.
    • Dr. Burns’ unique approach to therapy—including why he hasn’t charged for sessions in over 30 years.

    Links:

    https://feelinggood.com/

    https://www.feelinggreat.com/

    https://www.youtube.com/@UCEgz2rq7N1xCHMCcjdyU5zg

    https://feelinggood.com/books/

    Reach out!

    http://duffthepsych.com/contact

    duffthepsych@gmail.com

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    1 hr and 24 mins
  • 415: Latino Mental Health, Machismo, and Vulnerability as Strength with Dr. Paul Rivera
    Sep 20 2024

    Breaking Boundaries: Dr. Paul Rivera on Redefining Success and Masculinity

    In this episode, Dr. Paul Rivera, a first-generation Latino American, shares his inspiring journey navigating cultural expectations and his pursuit of a fulfilling life. From his early challenges growing up in a Latino neighborhood in Los Angeles to his prestigious roles as a professor and diplomat, Dr. Rivera discusses the importance of discovering one's unique superpower, embracing vulnerability as a strength, and redefining traditional notions of masculinity.

    Together with his wife, Dr. Rivera co-founded BE ACT Change, an organization focused on aligning individuals and organizations with their purpose. He also discusses their book, 'Creating Your Limitless Life,' which provides insights into achieving authentic success beyond material trappings. Tune in for valuable lessons on mental health, family dynamics, and sustainable change.

    https://www.instagram.com/be.act.change
    https://www.amazon.com/CREATING-YOUR-LIMITLESS-LIFE-Terms/dp/B0CHL3RW4L

    Sponsored by 23andMe, promoting proactive steps for health through genetic screening and personalized plans. http://23andme.com/duff

    00:00 Introduction: Dreams and Expectations
    00:25 Meet Dr. Paul Rivera: A Journey of Defying Expectations
    01:28 Navigating Cultural Expectations and Personal Aspirations
    02:22 Interview with Dr. Paul Rivera: Early Life and Influences
    03:12 Growing Up Latino in Los Angeles
    06:33 Balancing Work, Culture, and Personal Identity
    18:30 Family Dynamics and Personal Growth
    23:56 Challenging Machismo and Embracing Vulnerability
    29:50 The Power of Vulnerability
    30:38 Creating Safe Spaces at Home
    32:11 Community Outreach and Education
    33:47 Recognizing and Nurturing Potential
    35:07 Discovering Your Superpower
    37:03 Empowering Women in Leadership
    39:04 Building Trust and Overcoming Barriers
    40:21 The Journey to Self-Discovery
    42:36 From Diplomacy to Entrepreneurship
    43:32 The Mission of BeActChange
    51:21 Advice for Feeling Stuck
    56:30 Final Thoughts and Resources

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    58 mins
  • 414: Does COVID-19 Make ADHD Worse?
    Sep 13 2024

    Managing ADHD and Long COVID: Strategies for Cognitive Challenges In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff addresses a listener's question about the impact of COVID-19 on ADHD symptoms. The listener shares their struggles with ADHD and how contracting long COVID has exacerbated their cognitive difficulties, impacting their academic performance and daily life. Dr. Duff delves into the comorbidity of ADHD with other mental health issues, discusses research on post-COVID syndrome, and offers practical advice for seeking accommodations and support. He emphasizes the importance of self-compassion and provides steps for managing ADHD symptoms effectively. Tune in for compassionate guidance and actionable strategies to navigate ADHD in the context of long COVID.

    00:00 Introduction: ADHD and COVID-19 Impact
    00:33 Listener's Question: Struggles with ADHD and Long COVID
    02:14 Host's Response: Acknowledging the Struggles
    03:04 Understanding ADHD and Comorbidities
    04:39 COVID-19's Cognitive Impact
    08:16 Executive Functioning Explained
    10:20 Practical Advice and Encouragement
    13:21 Seeking Help and Accommodations
    17:30 Final Thoughts and Encouragement

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    18 mins
  • 413: Therapy Search is BROKEN w/ Colleen Marshall from Two Chairs
    Sep 6 2024

    Revolutionizing Therapy: Colleen Marshall on Two Chairs' Matching Process

    In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, Dr. Robert Duff interviews Colleen Marshall, Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs, a company dedicated to improving the therapy experience through innovative matching processes and measurement-based care. They discuss the current challenges in finding a suitable therapist, the importance of therapeutic alliance, and how Two Chairs' approach significantly improves client retention rates. Colleen also shares insights into her background, the systematic changes needed in therapy cultures, and the importance of culturally responsive training. Listeners will gain a better understanding of how Two Chairs is transforming mental health care by ensuring clients find the right therapist for their specific needs and continually measure treatment progress.

    00:00 The Broken Process of Finding a Therapist

    01:04 Introducing Two Chairs: Revolutionizing Therapy Matching

    01:52 Meet Colleen Marshall: Chief Clinical Officer at Two Chairs

    02:44 Colleen's Journey in Mental Health and Innovation

    06:22 The Importance of Therapeutic Alliance and Matching

    10:17 How Two Chairs Ensures Effective Therapy

    16:53 Challenges and Successes in Implementing Measurement-Based Care

    28:56 Balancing Wellness and Specialty Training

    29:23 Efficient Care and Graduation Goals

    31:03 Insurance and Access to Therapy

    32:04 Therapist's Role in Client Progress

    33:52 Matching Clients with the Right Therapist

    36:07 Navigating Therapy Models and Approaches

    47:13 Two Chairs: Availability and Process

    51:11 Future of Therapy and Cultural Responsiveness

    53:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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    54 mins
  • 412: Abandonment by Husband & Addicted to Checking Phone
    Aug 30 2024

    In this episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast, I address two intense and relatable listener questions.

    The first question comes from a listener who feels abandoned by their spouse after a traumatic car accident left them with PTSD and potential brain injury. I provide insights on the possible brain injuries they might have sustained, while also discussing the complexities of their strained relationship and offering practical advice for moving forward.

    In the second question, a listener struggles with constant phone checking and tech addiction. I offer actionable tips for managing phone usage, including identifying and challenging assumptions, creating a conscious phone use plan, and finding accountability.

    This episode aims to provide support, clarity, and practical guidance for listeners dealing with trauma, relationship challenges, and tech overdependence.

    This episode is brought to you by NoCD. Overthinking can be more than just a habit—it might be a symptom of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). NoCD provides virtual therapy sessions with licensed therapists specialized in Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) therapy, the gold standard treatment for OCD. To learn more, visit http://nocd.com and schedule a free 15-minute call.

    00:00 Introduction and Episode Overview
    01:16 Listener's Question: Dealing with Trauma and Relationship Issues
    02:33 Understanding Brain Injuries from Car Accidents
    08:05 Addressing Relationship Concerns and Seeking Separation
    08:11 Sponsor Break: NoCD
    15:14 Listener's Question: Overcoming Phone Addiction
    17:07 Tips for Reducing Phone Usage
    25:17 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

    Please send questions to duffthepsych@gmail.com

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    25 mins