The video version of this episode can be found on my YouTube channel.

The following is the recording of a Conscious Kink Q&A Zoom Call that I hosted for my Patreon community. I’m sharing it to this podcast to educate, and raise awareness and understanding about Conscious Kink, Conscious BDSM and Conscious FemDom.

I had planned to host these calls once a month, but I took many months off to write my book, The Dominatrix Archetypes: Become a Multidimensional Dominatrix in the Art of BDSM FemDom. Now that the book has been launched, I will be going back to a more regular schedule. If you are interested in participating on these calls, you are welcome to join my Patreon community.

There were so many great questions on this call, like these:

What’s the best first step to get into the professional FemDom Industry? Can you tell me more about working in a dungeon?

How many years has it taken for a sub to become your full time slave, and have you terminated any of those relationships because it wasn’t working anymore?

How does one enter the world of FemDom and find partners that are safe and knowledgeable?

Can you give some examples of how BDSM can be healing for Dommes and for subs?

Why do you think some people who were raised in highly religious households are drawn to kink?

My partner wants me to choke him during sex. Choking seems to be a form of breath play. My hesitancy is safety. What do you suggest?

It is an honor to provide education to my Patreon community and to share it with the wider kink community and the public. It is so important to share this information to dispel misunderstandings and misrepresentations of what true BDSM is. BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, sharing, and intimacy. Anything else that feels self-serving, harmful, or negative is not true BDSM. Please share this information with anyone who is interested so we can spread knowledge and understanding about this beautiful artform and deep level of connection.

This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

I’d like to send special thanks and shout-outs to my Patreon members. Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.

Many thanks to:

aadam975, Andres, Kaya A, Michael, MiKi22, Mistress Nacole, slave nipples, Peter R, pussy doll, Richard L.T., a aramaz, Albertus, allinthebrain, Bill Bumpus, Divine Diva, DJW, Eva, Domina Flora, Iryna S, Jeff, Julian S, L’Mae C, Mystic Dax, Nevaeh, Omanafire, Anonymous, Tom, Tracey C, Vincent V, Betty, Gala, jake, Mark R, Ms Coco 1111, Lady Sublime, uuee crump, Johnny SD, Raven, and sweetgirl julia.

And special thanks to the editor, sweetgirl julia.

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The video version of this episode can be found on my YouTube channel.

This is the recording of the first Zoom call that I hosted for my Patreon community, with the intention of sharing this content publicly on my podcast, to raise awareness and understanding about Conscious Kink, Conscious BDSM and Conscious FemDom. These Zoom calls will eventually be reserved for my Patreon members, but for a limited time, the invitation is open to everyone. All participants on Zoom are video-off to protect anonymity.

There were so many great questions on this call, like, “Can someone be trained to become kinky for their partner?”, and “What are some tips to keep in mind for new Mistresses to avoid common rookie mistakes?” and “Can you talk about the issue of lack of sex education and what to do when a therapist makes a sex-negative statement? My first reactions have always been to doubt myself because I am not a mental health professional, they are.”

It is an honor to provide education to my Patreon community and to share it with the wider kink community and the public. It is so important to share this information to dispel misunderstandings and misrepresentations of what true BDSM is. BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, sharing, and intimacy. Anything else that feels self-serving, harmful, or negative is not true BDSM. Please share this information with anyone who is interested so we can spread knowledge and understanding about this beautiful artform and deep level of connection.

This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

Special thanks to my Patreon members (listed below). Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.

DroneID_6999, JJ, Kaya Anais, Mistress Nacole, pussy doll, Richard T, Kate R, Andres, uuee crump, AP, Alana DR, Divine Diva, DJW, Domina Flora, Julian S, L’Mae C, Lourdes I, Matt, Mazi, Mystic Dax, Tom, Tracy C, Vincent V, Jennifer K, Angela, Bill Bumpus, Jake, Larry W, Mark R, pyrophite5, Sarah F, Tom W, Betty, Angie B, Johnny SD, and Mistress Persephone Rose.

And many thanks to the editor, Geoff Nigl.

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The following episode is one of the most important, deep and honest conversations I have ever had. It was originally recorded for Follow the Wolf Podcast, hosted by Wolf Castillo, who was kind enough to give me permission to republish it here. I was actually the interview guest, but I turned some questions onto the host, too, and he graciously and vulnerably shared. This talk was so informative and educational, that I would be amiss if I didn’t share it here with my listeners as well.

In this episode, we talked about what BDSM really is, and how it can provide healing when done out of love and conscious intension. It is for anyone who is curious and wants learn more about and explore BDSM and kink, and it is for anyone who has been playing in this realm for some time but hasn’t felt quite satisfied with their experiences so far. And it is for anyone who knows and appreciates the beauty of kink.

We talk about how BDSM has unfortunately been, so stigmatized, pathologized and stereotyped in the mainstream, that there has been an huge amount of judgement placed upon those who do it, that it has been difficult and/or shameful for those who have a secret desire to explore their sexuality in the realm of BDSM, kink and erotic domination.

We talk about how Female domination, or FemDom, is not only healing for the submissive, but also for the Dominatrix, and how being kinky doesn’t have to originate from trauma or abuse, or being screwed up or broken in some way.

I want to thank and acknowledge Wolf for his beautiful vulnerability and willingness to share so openly and honestly about his personal kinks and submissive journey during this podcast. This is the first time he had ever shared openly about such a deeply personal topic before, and I honor his courage. His example serves as a huge inspiration for those out there listening, who may also have submissive desires but has had no outlet or safe container in which to explore, for fear of being judged or not loved for who they are.

BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, willingness to explore and play in the dark. Make sure you find BDSM practitioners or partners to play with who feel this way about it. You should feel better, lighter, happier and fulfilled after playing with a lightworker Domme. If you play with a Domme whom you don’t feel safe with, who don’t see you or value you as a human being, or who are taking advantage of you financially or otherwise, run away. That is not real domination, and that is NOT BDSM.

If you play with a Domme who you feel is well intentioned, but you have feelings of guilt, shame, or self-judgement afterwards, you may be in the early stages of your exploration, and you are going through a normal process called the submissive’s journey. Be gentle with yourself and take your time as you learn how to accept and love this part of you. Work with a kink-aware or kink-knowledgeable therapist (like me) who can help navigate this journey with you. Find community. You don’t have to do it alone. And it’s SO WORTH IT. There is so much magic and beauty in this world. I wish you a happy and exciting kink journey.

To work with Wolf Castillo:

https://linktr.ee/FollowtheWolf

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This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members. Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.

Sending my special thanks to:

Andre, pussy doll, Richard T, Domina Flora, Delwyn W, Divine Diva, Evette R, feline goddess, L’Mae C, Mystic Dax, Tom, Tracey C, Vincent V, Bella, Persephone Rose, Betty, Bill Bumpus, Jake, Kinky Curator, Sara F, Tom W, uuee crump, Johnny SD and Mr. Grey.

And many thanks to the editor, Geoff Nigl.

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The following is a recorded interview that I did with 6 sub coaches who staff my Evolutionary Dominatrix Academy. I call them sub coaches because they are submissives who work alongside me in the Academy to coach my students to teach them about the submissive mindset. Submissive psychology is a huge component of my unique FemDom training program, and the personal insight that my sub coaches bring to the education is invaluable. The sub coaches are experienced subs of 20-40 years. They have high levels of self esteem, and are extremely intelligent, self-aware, and giving. They are just as committed as I am, to the mission of preserving our beloved artform of BDSM, and educating the next generations of Lightworker Dommes. My sub coaches are also a core part of my very close-knit kink family. They are my personal slaves, subs and friends whom I love and treasure dearly. 

This interview was recorded 2 years ago for the purposes of educating my students. It was never intended to be shared on a public podcast, but I have decided to share it with you because I have heard over and over from my students that this interview had a deep impact on them, and many were moved to tears listening to it. This feedback made me realize that sharing these intimate, personal stories from the point of view of these submissives could benefit many of my listeners.

In this interview with the sub coaches, I asked them to share some personal stories of negative, harmful, or traumatic experiences that they have had with Dommes, and then ones of positive, reparative, healing experiences. Hearing the traumatic stories is very enlightening because subs don’t typically share their painful experiences with anyone. Most of these painful memories had just been kept privately to themselves for years or decades. We have the power to affect another human being on a deep, long lasting level. We can consciously choose to affect someone in a positive healing way, or unconsciously and carelessly affect someone in a negative, hurtful way. 

Hearing the sub coaches’ positive stories in this interview were a welcome follow up to the traumatic ones, and were equally impactful, in heartwarming, inspiring ways. These healing stories were just as important to hear, as they are wonderful examples of how Dominatrices who practice BDSM consciously are “Lightworkers who play in the Dark,” as in the title of this podcast. Healing experiences can override the negative ones. I can contend that BDSM, when practiced consciously and correctly, has a powerful healing effect. Many subs I know say that BDSM with their favorite Domme is the best therapy they’ve ever experienced. BDSM sessions heal when done with love. 

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This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon patrons - your patronage is much appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me. Become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

I'd like to send a very special thanks to my Patreon members – it means so much to me to know that what I’m doing is appreciated:

Duchess Amanda Lore Rein, Andres, Domina Flora, pussy doll, Richard T, Tonghe L, DJW, Evette R, Karo K, Keith F, Layla L, Tom, Tracey C, Andrea, Annette K, Betty, Bill B, Jake, Nodsutsamel, Persephone Rose, Sylvie, Tom W, Tsarina O, Priestess Francesca, Sum Ad.

And many thanks to the editor, Geoff Nigl.

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In this episode, I have a conversation with my slave, little dickie. The D/s relationship that I have with dickie has been one of the most unpredictable and fulfilling ones I’ve ever experienced. It really taught me how little I knew about how deep and diverse D/s relationships can be. If it weren’t for kink, I probably would not have the good fortune of knowing and appreciating the many beautiful souls who have touched my life over the years. Kink and BDSM is a huge bonding element in most of my friendships. It is because kink cuts though all the superficial facades and straight to a soul connection. It gets real and deep, real fast.  

I believe that my respect for dickie’s feelings elevates how he sees me as a domme. He says it makes him much more submissive to me because he feels like I care about him, and he has more trust in me. The important thing to remember is that there is an important distinction between being a domme and being a bully. A bully doesn’t care about the other person’s feelings. My willingness to evaluate and talk about Dickie’s feelings doesn’t detract at all from our DS relationship. It makes it stronger because he feels much more comfortable and safe being submissive to me. Being submissive doesn’t mean they want to be invisible. All subs want to be seen and understood. And to be submissive requires an enormous amount of trust in the domme.

The amount of personal growth and learning that I have gained through my relationships with all my personal slaves, has been exponential. The process of working things out with them has helped me keep my ego in check and taught me a lot about how to be a good person, and in turn, a good Domme.  I am in the elevated position in the D/s relationship, but I am not a better person. When I have been in the wrong, and apologized for hurting my slaves’ feelings, humbling myself in this way and showing that I care makes my slaves respect me even more than before.  

Underneath our D/s relationships, the foundation of friendship is always there. Real friendship and caring for one another as people has to be there, otherwise the relationship is not sustainable. This goes for all relationships. But the difference in D/s is that the understanding and quality of deference and respect from slave to Mistress is always there, in and out of scene. That’s what sets it apart from vanilla relationships and makes it magical.

It is my adamant belief that when a D/s relationship has a high level of respect, commitment and communication from both parties, success, closeness and happiness is guaranteed.

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This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon patrons - your patronage is much appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me. Become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

I'd like to send a very special thanks to my Patreon members – this podcast is fully supported by your patronage, and it means so much to me to know that what I’m doing here is appreciated and of value to you:

Duchess Amanda lore Rein, Andres, MaDomme, Domina Flora, sub pussy, Richard L. T., DJW, Evette R, Keith F, Mistress Olivia Holloway, Mistress Velvet, Tracey C, Andrea, Annette K, Betty, Bill B, Bill W, Chris M, Gianina M, Heavenly M, Jake, Karo K, Nodsutsamel, Sylvie, David W, Priestess Francesca, Mike L, Reelback96, Sum A

And many thanks to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose. 🌹

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The following are 4 really great questions from my Patreon members about BDSM as it relates to psychological and mental issues.  I’m sure these same issues are on the minds of many kinksters out there, so hopefully, my responses can be of help to some of you who are listening, too. It was a pleasure to offer my responses to the following questions, asked by Kevin, Anna, Zishaan and Jake. The kink journey is an ongoing, lifelong, rewarding one. Exploring kink can bring a deeper understanding of yourself to yourself, as well as help you grow and evolve as a person. Of course, finding the right partners to explore with is of utmost importance, and it can make all the difference in the world in your experience of BDSM. 

Kevin:

Hi Mistress Damiana, it’s your old friend Kevin. Here’s a question for your show: I recently I found out that I’ve been a lifelong sufferer of ADD. I see how that has clearly affected my relationships, including play BDSM relationships. I was just wondering if you’ve ever had any experience with folks with such a condition and how would you deal with that, or maybe other minor mental disabilities.

Anna:

Hi Mistress Damiana, this is Anna. I wanted to ask about the mental health aspect of BDSM. I am submissive but I have never actually done a session, so my mental health has never been to great, but over the last few years it has become worse. And I was wondering: do you think it’s possible to become mentally ill because of denying yourself to live out that side of yourself? And also do you think there’s a connection between being submissive and feeling the need to self harm, for example? I guess what I’m asking is: is it such an important part of us that we need to actively live it in order to be OK?

Zishaan:

As somebody who has a background in both clinical psychology and BDSM, how do you see the two of those intersecting, connecting relating to one another? Can BDSM be a tool of healing and growth and if so how? And also I know you have a background in Jungian psychology, so I wanted to ask you whether you have any resources or books that you would recommend people reading to learn more about the psychoanalytic side BDSM?

Jake:

Hello Mistress Chi, my name is Jacob and I have been infatuated with the world of FemDom since I was around 11 or 12 when I first discovered it. I have a memory of being around six years old and making a bet with my best friend, a girl I had known since I was 2, and if I lost the bet she had to sit on my face. Well, I intentionally lost the bet. I was always enticed by the idea of being forced to do something by some beautiful woman. I am currently 25 and though I am a very commanding and authoritative person, I am still infatuated with FemDom and have a sort of FemDom relationship with my wife. Is my love of FemDom simply indicative of my nature, or is that due to the nurture of having been exposed to FemDom for so long as a child?

Sending a personal thank you to my Patreon members:

Duchess Amanda LoreRein, Domina Flora, Richard Tackett, Andres, B, Calahn, Ebethdarlene, Lindsay P., David Z, Jacob M, Jon, Mistress Olivia Holloway, Mistress Velvet, Shamee R, Sharon T, Sum Ad, Tracey C, Bill Bumpus, Betty, Bill W, Jaye D, Karo K, Leah F, Mark R, Nodsutsamel, Patience E, Sylvie, Priestess Francesca, Mike L, and Reelback96.

And many thanks to my editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose. 🌹

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Golden showers, water sports, piss play, and golden nectar toilet training…these are all different names for basically the same thing – urine play, which is such a hot and sexy topic, and a super popular fetish!  In this interview with 4 of my personal subs, we break down why this is so hot for each one of them personally, and how does it make them feel dominated.  I chose the 4 of them specifically because they hold such different perspectives on this topic, and they explain what it’s like from their submissive point of view.  They are all subs that I personally play with, so I also describe what it feels like for me, from my dominant point of view, as I play with each of them with GS or golden nectar training.  The unique relationship dynamics I have with each one of them impacts my style of play with them, as well as the range of dominant feelings I experience as I play.

It’s always interesting for me to interview my subs, which is something that I’ve been doing for over 25 years, and I learn something new all the time.  I loved finding out new details about how each of my subs feel about gs play.  It was revelatory to discover that Charles, my personally collared slave who I play with in a consensual non-consent way, feels like every one of the subs feels – he is turned on by the erotic fact that golden nectar is coming out of the most beautiful, private part of a woman, he feels worshipful while he is drinking it, and it is humiliating at the same time.  I loved how Geo said that this discussion was educational for him and that being a part of it inspired and evolved his personal perspective of it.  This is an example of how beautiful and ever evolving BDSM play can be.  All subs whom I have a long-term relationships with have evolved their perspectives, kinks, fetishes and fantasies over the years.  As I told Geo in the interview, there is always room to grow, expand and explore in kink and BDSM.  

This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon patrons - your patronage is much appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me. Become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

I'd like to send a special thanks to a few new Patreon members:

Special Access Patrons: Sylvie and Bill Bumpus

Exclusive access patrons: Rae O and Andres

Thank you all so much, your patronage is so appreciated. I can’t wait to connect with you all behind the scenes.

And many thanks to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose. 🌹

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This is a short (clean version) teaser clip of a live, in-person BDSM session that I did with my slave, grunty. The full, explicit version is available for my Special Access, Exclusive Access, or VIP Patreon members by going to https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd. You will get access to this and all other BDSM psychodrama episodes on this podcast, and to also connect with me in fun ways, like participating on the Q&A episodes, BDSM domination episodes like the one you just listened to, and access to my private Telegram group, where you can ask me questions every week, and do 1-on1 personal video chats with me. 

This session includes slave training, ownership, humiliation and degradation, Anal play, Nipple torture, Breath play, genital torture and golden nectar training. My domination style is strict, cruel, wicked, and sadistic with this slave. I don’t play with every sub this way. This is only one example of the full range of domination styles within my diverse repertoire. My play style varies according to the sub I am playing with because I play off each person’s particular submissive energy. My domination styles range from elegant and poised to instructional and compassionate to mischievous and playful to wicked and sadistic to strict and cruel.

What you are about to hear is the beginning of the session, where slave grunty is kneeling before me at my throne, while I talk to him about what I am about to do to him in this session…

If you would like to support this podcast, please become my patron by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd to join as a member and personally connect with me in fun ways!

Much gratitude to the editor, the lovely Mistress Persephone Rose 🌹

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