Lightworkers who play in the Dark

By: Mistress Damiana Chi Ph.D.
  • Summary

  • Lightworkers are healers who transmute darkness into light. They are those who walk among us who make you feel better, just from being in their presence. Can a Dominatrix really be a Lightworker? Yes - if she is playing consciously, in service to the well-being of her submissives. If a Domme can see and accept her subs for all of who they are, if she can meet them in their darkness and celebrate it with them, she can transmute pain into ecstacy, shame into acceptance, fear into love. This is the role and mission of The Evolutionary Dominatrix™.


    BDSM is an artform, healing modality and energy exchange relationship that is widely misunderstood and misrepresented in the media as abusive, comical or sick. People judge or ridicule that which they do not understand. Representations of kink for the purpose of entertainment don't do justice to the beauty and totality of this unique connection, based on trust and mutual respect.


    In this podcast, Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D., provides a glimpse into the real world of BDSM, kink and erotic domination and the intricacies of the lives of people who live in it. These are usually intelligent people with a high level of self-awareness and psychological health. They are professionals, parents, artists, technicians...people you know and talk to on a daily basis. Here, they will have open and honest conversations about why BDSM is such a big part of their lives and how they benefit from this unique lifestyle.


    Mistress Damiana is a ​professional and lifestyle dominatrix who has held a full-time practice for over 2 decades at her elegantly-appointed BDSM studio in Los Angeles, the Chi Temple. She holds a Ph.D. in clinical psychology, a Masters degree in counseling psychology, and a Bachelors degree in behavioral sciences. She is also a ​certified sexologist, specializing in kink-centered life coaching.


    Mistress Damiana is the founder ​The Evolutionary Dominatrix™ Academy, in which she personally mentors pro and lifestyle Dommes, in all parts of the world online, in the art of Conscious Female Domination with her self-developed psychologically-based methodology. The marriage of her psychological background and passion for the BDSM arts and D/s dynamics gave birth to her evolutionary teachings, taking FemDom to a new level of excellence, connection and joy.


    ​Mistress Damiana is also the creator of ​Conscious Kink Community – a private social network that is exclusive to personally-vetted members only who are a right fit for this special community. These are kinksters who share a like-minded consciousness about being respectful and supportive of one another, in a safe container where we can share and connect about anything kink related.


    Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D. at ​damianachiphd.com and on most social media platforms at ​@damianachiphd. Her lectures and interviews can be seen on ​YouTube.


    If you would like to support this podcast, please become Mistress Damiana's patron by going to Patreon.com/damianachiphd.

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Episodes
  • Conscious Kink Q&A (Episode 11)
    Jul 17 2024

    The video version of this episode can be found on my YouTube channel.


    The following is the recording of a Conscious Kink Q&A Zoom Call that I hosted for my Patreon community. I’m sharing it to this podcast to educate, and raise awareness and understanding about Conscious Kink, Conscious BDSM and Conscious FemDom.

    I had planned to host these calls once a month, but I took many months off to write my book, The Dominatrix Archetypes: Become a Multidimensional Dominatrix in the Art of BDSM FemDom. Now that the book has been launched, I will be going back to a more regular schedule. If you are interested in participating on these calls, you are welcome to join my Patreon community.

    There were so many great questions on this call, like these:

    What’s the best first step to get into the professional FemDom Industry? Can you tell me more about working in a dungeon?

    How many years has it taken for a sub to become your full time slave, and have you terminated any of those relationships because it wasn’t working anymore?

    How does one enter the world of FemDom and find partners that are safe and knowledgeable?

    Can you give some examples of how BDSM can be healing for Dommes and for subs?

    Why do you think some people who were raised in highly religious households are drawn to kink?

    My partner wants me to choke him during sex. Choking seems to be a form of breath play. My hesitancy is safety. What do you suggest?


    It is an honor to provide education to my Patreon community and to share it with the wider kink community and the public. It is so important to share this information to dispel misunderstandings and misrepresentations of what true BDSM is. BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, sharing, and intimacy. Anything else that feels self-serving, harmful, or negative is not true BDSM. Please share this information with anyone who is interested so we can spread knowledge and understanding about this beautiful artform and deep level of connection.

    This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

    I’d like to send special thanks and shout-outs to my Patreon members. Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.

    Many thanks to:

    aadam975, Andres, Kaya A, Michael, MiKi22, Mistress Nacole, slave nipples, Peter R, pussy doll, Richard L.T., a aramaz, Albertus, allinthebrain, Bill Bumpus, Divine Diva, DJW, Eva, Domina Flora, Iryna S, Jeff, Julian S, L’Mae C, Mystic Dax, Nevaeh, Omanafire, Anonymous, Tom, Tracey C, Vincent V, Betty, Gala, jake, Mark R, Ms Coco 1111, Lady Sublime, uuee crump, Johnny SD, Raven, and sweetgirl julia.

    And special thanks to the editor, sweetgirl julia.


    ✨ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.✨

    Links Page | http://damianachiphd.com

    Podcast | https://podcast.damianachiphd.com

    Academy | https://academy.theevolutionarydominatrix.com

    Book | https://thedominatrixarchetypes.com

    Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd

    Community | https://www.consciouskinkcommunity.com

    Coaching | https://www.bdsmsexologist.com

    Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/damianachiphd


    #damianachiphd #lightworkerswhoplayinthedark #BDSMeducation

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  • Conscious Kink Q&A (Episode 10)
    Dec 23 2023

    The video version of this episode can be found on my YouTube channel.


    This is the recording of the first Zoom call that I hosted for my Patreon community, with the intention of sharing this content publicly on my podcast, to raise awareness and understanding about Conscious Kink, Conscious BDSM and Conscious FemDom. These Zoom calls will eventually be reserved for my Patreon members, but for a limited time, the invitation is open to everyone. All participants on Zoom are video-off to protect anonymity.

    There were so many great questions on this call, like, “Can someone be trained to become kinky for their partner?”, and “What are some tips to keep in mind for new Mistresses to avoid common rookie mistakes?” and “Can you talk about the issue of lack of sex education and what to do when a therapist makes a sex-negative statement? My first reactions have always been to doubt myself because I am not a mental health professional, they are.”


    It is an honor to provide education to my Patreon community and to share it with the wider kink community and the public. It is so important to share this information to dispel misunderstandings and misrepresentations of what true BDSM is. BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, sharing, and intimacy. Anything else that feels self-serving, harmful, or negative is not true BDSM. Please share this information with anyone who is interested so we can spread knowledge and understanding about this beautiful artform and deep level of connection.


    This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members - your patronage is so appreciated. As a member of my Patreon community, you will be able to connect with me in fun ways. Become a member by going to patreon.com/damianachiphd.

    Special thanks to my Patreon members (listed below). Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.

    DroneID_6999, JJ, Kaya Anais, Mistress Nacole, pussy doll, Richard T, Kate R, Andres, uuee crump, AP, Alana DR, Divine Diva, DJW, Domina Flora, Julian S, L’Mae C, Lourdes I, Matt, Mazi, Mystic Dax, Tom, Tracy C, Vincent V, Jennifer K, Angela, Bill Bumpus, Jake, Larry W, Mark R, pyrophite5, Sarah F, Tom W, Betty, Angie B, Johnny SD, and Mistress Persephone Rose.

    And many thanks to the editor, Geoff Nigl.


    ✨ Connect with Mistress Damiana Chi, Ph.D.✨

    Links Page | http://damianachiphd.com

    Podcast | https://podcast.damianachiphd.com

    Academy | https://academy.theevolutionarydominatrix.com

    Community | https://www.consciouskinkcommunity.com

    Coaching | https://www.bdsmsexologist.com

    Patreon | https://www.patreon.com/damianachiphd

    Instagram | https://www.instagram.com/damianachiphd

    Twitter | https://twitter.com/damianachiphd

    Facebook | https://www.facebook.com/damianachiphd


    #damianachiphd #lightworkerswhoplayinthedark #BDSMeducation

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  • The Healing Power of BDSM: A Conversation with Podcaster, Relationship Coach and Exploring Submissive, Wolf Castillo
    Sep 15 2023

    The following episode is one of the most important, deep and honest conversations I have ever had. It was originally recorded for Follow the Wolf Podcast, hosted by Wolf Castillo, who was kind enough to give me permission to republish it here. I was actually the interview guest, but I turned some questions onto the host, too, and he graciously and vulnerably shared. This talk was so informative and educational, that I would be amiss if I didn’t share it here with my listeners as well.


    In this episode, we talked about what BDSM really is, and how it can provide healing when done out of love and conscious intension. It is for anyone who is curious and wants learn more about and explore BDSM and kink, and it is for anyone who has been playing in this realm for some time but hasn’t felt quite satisfied with their experiences so far. And it is for anyone who knows and appreciates the beauty of kink.


    We talk about how BDSM has unfortunately been, so stigmatized, pathologized and stereotyped in the mainstream, that there has been an huge amount of judgement placed upon those who do it, that it has been difficult and/or shameful for those who have a secret desire to explore their sexuality in the realm of BDSM, kink and erotic domination.


    We talk about how Female domination, or FemDom, is not only healing for the submissive, but also for the Dominatrix, and how being kinky doesn’t have to originate from trauma or abuse, or being screwed up or broken in some way.


    I want to thank and acknowledge Wolf for his beautiful vulnerability and willingness to share so openly and honestly about his personal kinks and submissive journey during this podcast. This is the first time he had ever shared openly about such a deeply personal topic before, and I honor his courage. His example serves as a huge inspiration for those out there listening, who may also have submissive desires but has had no outlet or safe container in which to explore, for fear of being judged or not loved for who they are.


    BDSM is about love, trust, acceptance, openness, willingness to explore and play in the dark. Make sure you find BDSM practitioners or partners to play with who feel this way about it. You should feel better, lighter, happier and fulfilled after playing with a lightworker Domme. If you play with a Domme whom you don’t feel safe with, who don’t see you or value you as a human being, or who are taking advantage of you financially or otherwise, run away. That is not real domination, and that is NOT BDSM.


    If you play with a Domme who you feel is well intentioned, but you have feelings of guilt, shame, or self-judgement afterwards, you may be in the early stages of your exploration, and you are going through a normal process called the submissive’s journey. Be gentle with yourself and take your time as you learn how to accept and love this part of you. Work with a kink-aware or kink-knowledgeable therapist (like me) who can help navigate this journey with you. Find community. You don’t have to do it alone. And it’s SO WORTH IT. There is so much magic and beauty in this world. I wish you a happy and exciting kink journey.


    To work with Wolf Castillo:

    https://linktr.ee/FollowtheWolf


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    This podcast is fully supported by my Patreon members. Your support means so much to me, and it feels so good to know that what I’m doing is appreciated by you. It is an honor to contribute to my beloved kink community.

    Sending my special thanks to:


    Andre, pussy doll, Richard T, Domina Flora, Delwyn W, Divine Diva, Evette R, feline goddess, L’Mae C, Mystic Dax, Tom, Tracey C, Vincent V, Bella, Persephone Rose, Betty, Bill Bumpus, Jake, Kinky Curator, Sara F, Tom W, uuee crump, Johnny SD and Mr. Grey.


    And many thanks to the editor, Geoff Nigl.

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    2 hrs and 9 mins

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