No More Mr. Nice Guy
A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Updated)
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“One of the best books I’ve ever read on men’s emotional health and development.” Mark Manson, author of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck and Models.
“I have read every self-help book out there, but this was the first that put everything together in a way that made perfect sense to me.”
“Every page of my copy of No More Mr. Nice Guy is highlighted in yellow. How did you know me so well?
A Nice Guy, according to Dr. Robert Glover, a pioneering expert on the Nice Guy Syndrome, is a man who believes he is not okay just as he is. He is convinced that he must become what he thinks others want him to be liked, loved, and get his needs met. He also believes that he must hide anything about himself that might trigger a negative response in others.
The Nice Guy Syndrome typically begins in infancy and childhood when a young boy inaccurately internalizes emotional messages about himself and the world. It is fueled by toxic shame and anxiety. Rapid social change in the late 20th century and early 21st century has contributed to a worldwide explosion of men struggling to find happiness, love, and purpose.
The paradigm of the Nice Guy Syndrome is driven by three faulty covert contracts. Nice Guys believe:
- If I am good, then I will be liked and loved.
- If I meet other people’s needs without them having to ask, then they will meet my needs without me having to ask.
- If I do everything right, then I will have a smooth, problem-free life.
The inauthentic and chameleon-like approach to life causes Nice Guys to often feel frustrated, confused, and resentful. Subsequently, these men are often anything but nice. Common Nice Guy patterns include giving to get, difficulty setting boundaries, dishonesty, caretaking, fixing, codependency, people-pleasing, conflict avoidance, passive-aggressiveness, unsatisfying relationships, issues with sexuality, and compulsive masturbation and pornography use.
Since the publication of No More Mr. Nice Guy in 2003, hundreds of thousands of men worldwide have learned how to release toxic shame, soothe their anxiety, face their fears, connect with men, embrace their passion and purpose, and experience success in work and career. These men have also learned to set boundaries, handle conflict, make their needs a priority, develop satisfying relationships, and experience great sex.
This process of recovery from the Nice Guy Syndrome allows men to move through:
- Depression
- Social anxiety and shyness
- Codependency
- Low self-esteem
- Loneliness and hopelessness
- Feelings of failure
- Lack of confidence and purpose
- Compulsive behaviors and addictions
- Feeling stuck in life
Contrary to what the title might seem to imply, No More Mr. Nice Guy does not teach men how to be not nice. Dr. Glover shows men how to become what he calls Integrated Males. Becoming integrated does not mean becoming different or better. It means being able to accept all aspects of oneself. An integrated male can embrace everything that makes him unique - his power, his assertiveness, his humor, his courage, and his mission, as well as his fears, his imperfections, his mistakes, his rough edges, and his dark side.
If you are ready to get what you want in love, sex, and life, No More Mr. Nice Guy will show you how.
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- Dave Blundell
- 08-09-18
The best book a man can read!
Where do I start? After trying to find a cure for struggling with life and love. Having read books on self help, spirituality and the meaning of life this book diagnosed me 100%. Yep I am a Nice Guy! This was like reading my own life story.... because it was! I read this book open mouthed and amazed, after 50 years of hell I now know the problem that has been my constant curse. I owe Robert Glover a debt of gratitude, because now I can hopefully become a "Man" and not a "Nice guy" anymore. If you're a male out there struggling in life and love and never getting to where you think you deserve to be you have to read this book. In fact I think every man needs to read this book to stop and to halt the nice guy/half man plague that has afflicted the male population. BUY THIS BOOK YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY 10/10
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- Jasbir A.
- 11-02-18
Awesome book
it's a must read for every guy. it's a shame I didn't come across his book earlier.
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- Tomasz Sledz
- 04-12-18
one of the most needed book for the man
Simplu a game changer. Recommended to all man to read/listen. Well-done, I have already listen to you twice.
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- Anonymous User
- 08-09-18
Cult stuff
To pity to miss the story about way of being nice is the worst choise.
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- Anonymous User
- 04-09-20
Essential reading for the nice guy
This was like reading an auto biography for me, the average nice guy. It has given me a new determination to stop pleasing and fixing and instead focusing on my own needs for once. Not always an easy read in places and certainly brought up some anger. But I do consider this an essential read if you want to break the trance of being a nice guy.
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- Vinzent Zazzi Eleo Raïswell
- 12-12-20
Must "Read"!
Great value and content! 👍💖
I would have loved to have read this book 30 years ago.
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- Giorgio Guglielmino
- 31-10-18
It is slowly changing my life
I'm starting to absorb this book after few readings. I can see myself pictured as nice guy and implementing the suggestions in the book is moving things on to a better me
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- Anonymous User
- 25-05-22
Life changing
If I hadnt read this week I wouldnt understand whats was ruining my relationships all these years.
This book made me love and accept myself again and got me out of the victim and people pleaser mode.
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- Anonymous User
- 20-02-24
Opening a new chapter in my life
This book revealed my shortcomings with subconscious behaviour where I thought I was doing the right thing.
I have learned a lot by listening to this book and plan to read the hard copy once it arrives
It’s been enlightening and a game changer.
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- Z. Nath
- 07-03-24
Must read for all men
Book so accurately shows the trend in general men's behaviour in modern society, it is nearly scary. It do not endorse Toxic masculinity but healthy masculinity. I really loved that book.
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