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Eight Dates

Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

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Eight Dates

By: John Gottman PhD, Julie Schwartz Gottman PhD, Doug Abrams, Rachel Carlton Abrams
Narrated by: James Patrick Cronin, Julie McKay
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Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort - and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on 40 years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

Interactive activities and prompts provide motivation to stay open, stay curious, and, most of all, stay talking to each other. And the range - from the four skills you need for intimate conversation (including Put into Words What You Are Feeling) to tips on being honest about your needs, while also validating your partner’s own emotions - will resonate, whether you’re newly together or a longtime couple looking to fortify your bond. You will discover (or rediscover) your partner like never before - and be able to realize your hopes and dreams for the love you desire and deserve.

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©2018 John Gottman, Julie Schwartz Gottman, Doug Abrams, and Rachel Carlton Abrams (P)2019 Audible, Inc. Conflict Resolution Love, Dating & Attraction Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships Personal Development Personal Success Relationships Sociology Dream Marriage Self Love

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Lots of excellent ideas for those difficult conversations which are so important in meaningful relationships. I found listening on audio quite difficult to engage with and think a hard copy is probably better to with for this one.
I will be inviting my boyfriend to the 8 dates nonetheless!

Food for thought

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While we have discussed some of the topics mentioned in some form or another in my current relationship, I had never been intentional with these topics, as the book has prompted me to be and ask for, which I reflected upon and decided is needed. I have also seriously benefited from asking myself a lot of these questions and I suspect starting these dates will make it clear for us whether we can make a marriage work or not before we begin one.

Overall, highly recommended read for anyone intentional about making life partnerships work happy for all parties involved.

Exceptional and deep introspection promoting

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Easy to read and a lot of material to work on. I haven't done the proposed dates yet but it already has given me a lot to think about. Good read to anyone trying to improve their relationship.

Interesting and instructive

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such simple yet useful book for couples at any stage of relationship! it has to be read over and over again as the information is vital for every day. and it should be a handbook in each family or relationship.

everything!

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I loved practical guidance in this book and specific tips on how to better listen and communicate

Wonderfully helpful

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I loved listening to the book and learning and reflecting about the questions and the conversation topics. I am grateful that this book is going to help and serve as a guide for my future dates. Dr. John and Julie Gottman, you're the coolest💖

AMAZING

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I loved everything about the book, the stories and the methodology used. This is definitely recommended to couples.

Examples

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Having recently met a guy via online dating I've reassociated myself with dating coaches on YT. I like this chap and want to see where it goes whilst being my best informed self. One of the coaches, Johnathan Aslay, has been recommending this book. I have valued his video content so thought I'd have a read. Glad I did. I'll use this advice. Keep your fingers crossed for me!

Recommended by a YouTube dating coach

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useful relationship advice and guidance

having read a number of previous books by the same authors, I found this fantastic.

genuine practical examples, and down to earth explanations of relationships.

useful relationship advice and guidance

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Terrible automatic voice for some of it
Brilliant content that can save marriages or keep the happy ones in a good place

Wonderful book, very iseful

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