As our listener is coming to terms with her emotionally abusive childhood, she asks for our help understanding the lasting impact of suppressing her emotions and 'playing the moods' of her father. After working hard to break the cycle for her own children, she's trying to model healthy communication and relationships for them - but did she do the right thing leaving her marriage?

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•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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Describing her childhood as growing up in a cult, without access to basic necessities and education, our listener this week struggles to come to terms with the declining health of her parents. Listen to Helen and Katie help Emi tap into her healthy anger about being denied the childhood she deserved.

TW: religious cult, discussion of death

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•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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If you don't cry or dislike when someone around you cries, does that make you cold hearted? That's just one of the concerns that our listener wanted to tackle this week, as Helen and Katie explore her past childhood experiences and the lasting impact it's had on her ability to express her emotions.

TW: Physical abuse of a child

You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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Our guest this weeks describes being 'obsessed' with her mother as a child, seeking her adoration and love above all else. She asks for help drawing a line under the past to be able to move forward with her own family, but is this possible if her mother is still the centre of her world?

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: UK, US (affiliate links)

TW: Suicide

Our guest this week shares how she's been living with her husband's mood swings and silent treatment, but now she's tired of feeling responsible for her family's emotions as well as her own. As the self-described "CEO of the household", she fears that if she steps back, the spinning plates she's been carrying for so long will come crashing down.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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Former "good kid" turned trauma therapist, Maggie Nick joins us this week to talk about trauma and the impact her own childhood has on her parenting, including how she was feeling triggered by her children in ways she never expected. Listen as Helen and Katie unpick the relational trauma and shame that needed to be shed before Maggie could silence her inner critic and become the parent she wished she had.

•⁠ ⁠Do you hate saying no?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you avoid conflict at all costs?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you never feel good enough?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you feel like a burden?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you find it hard to ask for help…
•⁠ ⁠…⁠but do everything for everyone else?
•⁠ ⁠⁠Do you struggle to identify and hold boundaries?

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Confused by the family dynamics growing up and the blurred lines between parent and child, our guest this week describes a deep need to understand her past before she can fully move forward. She questions whether she was the golden child or the scapegoat within the family that should have protected her all along. Despite going no contact, she shares her fear of an unexpected run-in or being pushed to reconnect by family members minimising the abuse she experienced.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

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When you've spent your life feeling like you're an 'empath' who's an expert at spotting a lie, what do you do when you can no longer trust your instincts? And is it instinct, or is it trauma? That's the dilemma our guest is facing this week, as she asks how she can trust the opinions and actions of others, when she can no longer trust her own.

Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.

We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 60 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology.

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