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Blind to Betrayal

Why We Fool Ourselves We Aren't Being Fooled

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Blind to Betrayal

By: Jennifer Freyd, Pamela Birrell
Narrated by: A. Savalas
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One of the world's top experts on betrayal looks at why we often can't see it right in front of our faces.

If the cover-up is worse than the crime, blindness to betrayal can be worse than the betrayal itself. Whether the betrayer is an unfaithful spouse, an abusive authority figure, an unfair boss, or a corrupt institution, we often refuse to see the truth in order to protect ourselves. This book explores the fascinating phenomenon of how and why we ignore or deny betrayal, and what we can gain by transforming "betrayal blindness" into insight.

  • Explains the psychological phenomenon of "betrayal blindness", in which we implicitly choose unawareness in order to avoid the risk of seeing treachery or injustice
  • Based on the authors' substantial original research and clinical experience carried out over the last decade as well as their own story of confronting betrayal
  • Filled with fascinating case studies involving unfaithful spouses, abusive authority figures and corrupt institutions, to name a few

In a remarkable collaboration of science and clinical perspectives, Jennifer Freyd, one of the world's top experts on betrayal and child abuse, teams up with Pamela Birrell, a psychotherapist and educator with 25 years of experience.

©2013 Jennifer J. Freyd and Pamela J. Birrell (P)2013 Audible, Inc. Abuse Personal Development Relationships Social Sciences Health Mental Health

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The concept of betrayal blindness has finally allowed me to see what happened in my marriage clearly, as well as why the clarity eluded me for so long. Thank you for this book, I really needed it.

This book has helped me to understand my marriage and my life.

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Interesting but repetitive, including more than I thought necessary about author’s parents’ actions - needed editing.

Interesting but repetitive

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Takes the listener on a voyage regarding betrayal at the individual as well as the institutional level. With powerful stories it's impossible one will finish this audiobook without having learned something.

Enlightening

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This book is ground breaking. The research is current and the opinions expressed are solid. A great book that every institution should read.

Explains a lot.

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There is a lot missing from this book, in my humble opinion. Why is there a laser-like focus mainly on the authors' experiences? This could have been so much broader in its basis, based on my personal experiences of betrayal and my own inabllity to 'see' betrayal for what it is. Yes, it's possible that the consequences of 'seeing' that betrayal for what it actually is, could have problematic consequences, but for me, personally, I found this book very disappointing,.shallow, narrow-minded and unhelpful for me, but possibly beneficial for others. There can be many other reasons for our inability to recognise and name betrayal - such as another focus on only seeing the 'good' in others, such as being brought up to be a 'good' child who puts others' needs ahead of one's own, or a co-dependent need to have someone 'stronger' & apparently more confident than oneself to rely one, through a cage mistrust in oneself that might not be cause by abuse in childhood, but a plain lack of self- confidence? Yet there is no mention of any of this, none whatsoever. There is no doubt that abusers most definitely do blame their victims and turn things around back to front in order to protect themselves and throw the focus off themselves, and it's a horrifically challenging position in which to be placed - double betrayal - BUT that is not the ONLY cause of "betrayal blindness', surely. Co-dependency need not be born of childhood abuse, but rather of a lack of emotional stability in childhood, and societal 'norms', for here in the West, we live in a blindly co-dependent society...

Unhelpful & overly focused in one single area

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